Avoidance, evasion & denial

Avoidance, evasion & denial of difficult feelings, situations & problems (sometimes) seems to help for a while, but chances are the problem or situation will only get worse by your inaction. By burying your head in the sand, you no longer see what's going on and thus can't intervene when necessary or handy. As a result, problems can fester & grow bigger unnoticed and you suffer more and more consequences - and those can be very unpleasant.

Like a toothache, you have to be very lucky if a difficult feeling, situation or problem passes on its own. Usually the pain only gets worse and the procedure becomes more complicated, painful & expensive. And yet most people avoid many small & big things - and then deny that.... . Usually because they don't know so well how to deal with a difficult feeling, situation or problem and then denial & avoidance (unconsciously) can seem like the best option.

Deny, evade & avoid

But avoiding difficult situations & problems won't solve anything & even if the problems don't get bigger, it will make your world smaller & duller - and that happens to a lot of people. And if you deny, evade or avoid difficult feelings, chances are they will continue to bother you unnoticed & go 'underground', allowing feelings that are hard to digest to start causing physical & other problems - and if you ignore & deny those again.... .

Avoiding, evading & denying difficult feelings, situations & problems is rarely a good idea. You'd better start learning how to properly deal with difficult feelings and you'd better start learning how to handle difficult situations & solve problems. This will not only ensure that you save yourself & others a lot of trouble, but also that you will start to strengthen your self-esteem & self-confidence and increase your capabilities.

Avoidance behavior

Learning to deal well with difficult feelings, situations & problems may seem difficult at first, but by doing so you can really make it much easier for yourself. You can thereby avoid endless difficulties & hassles in your life, work & relationships and create much better circumstances, more interesting pursuits & relationships. And that is a lot more fun than being forced to deal with the negative consequences of your avoidance behavior.

Because as you know yourself, avoidance behavior often has many (unforeseen) negative consequences.If you look under the rug you have swept everything under, you start to see all the things you do and especially don't do because you are insecure, afraid, negative, lazy, depressed or demotivated. And then you realize how important it is to start dealing with your avoidance behavior. Because otherwise you will continue to carry an unnecessarilly heavy burden & suffer its negative consequences - unnecessarilly.

Dealing with difficulties

When you don't actually know how to deal so well with certain difficulties, it seems easier to avoid the situation or to suppress or numb the signals from your body & mind that something is not right, using alcohol or medication. This sometimes seems to work for a while, but unfortunately, it only seems that way of course. It's better to start working on a real solution, than to keep avoiding situations & suppressing your symptoms and letting them fester.

It's better to learn to face up to problems & actively address them, than to continue to muddle along passively or plod on endlessly. When you take that step, it turns out to be very enriching to gain more insight into yourself & learn new things and learn to approach feelings, situations & problems differently. It is very liberating to tackle the cause of your problems - and to be able to do all the fun & interesting things you've always wanted to do.

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