The best guidance I could wish for! Thank you! Arjen - HR manager
Why didn't I find Centrumpraktijk earlier?! It would have saved me so much time and trouble!!! Marian - general practitioner
I finally feel fit and vital again. How wonderful it is to have energy again and to have clarity in my work & to be conscious in life. ! Harold - manager
Thanks to you, I no longer let it get to my head. My health is much more important than the delusions of the day. Thanks to your tips, stress has less and less of a hold on me and my entire family benefits from that. Conrad - branch manager
Thank you very much for all your efforts, I really appreciate it. Gerard - consultant
Amazing how quickly you saw through my patterns! That immediately gave me so much insight & relaxation! Diederik - business consultant
Finally someone who really knows what he's talking about! Why aren't there more of them? Irene - hr manager
I am glad I took the step. In-depth and very enlightening. Exactly what I was looking for. Arnoud - psychologist
I have found the balance that I desperately need in my busy life. Adriaan - general manager
I still benefit from it every day. It helps me to get everything clear - and keep it that way!. It gives me the insight & support I need when the work piles up. Moniek - pedagogue
The personal and involved guidance has done me a lot of good. I am increasingly able to apply the tools in my daily life. Francien - technical draftsman
Fantastic to meet someone with such deep understanding and experience! I learned a lot from it! Daniel - doctor
Good that to have greater awareness of my patterns and pitfalls. I feel a lot stronger and I can relax more easily. Johan - physiotherapist
Everything is getting easier for me and life is getting more fun! And that's what an old grump like me says... . Never thought I would really enjoy life! Bernard - chef
Nice to know better and better how to deal with all the challenges. That works very well! Jose - Team Leader
Great what you do! Sandra - sales manager
It's getting calmer and clearer, stress has less and less of an effect on me & others are starting to notice that I'm a lot more relaxed. Gerard - marketing director
I can now handle my responsibilities well and I no longer forget myself too much, and because of that I'm much more energetic and I can finally really get going with my own work. Roos - creative director
I've been walking around with book knowledge for far too long, a waste of time. Good to really get started with you. Thomas - professor
It feels more and more natural to live consciously. That feels good and gives me a lot. Serge - accountant
Thanks for your insights, really fantastic! Simone - HR advisor
The tools you gave me are very effective. I now approach things differently; it seems like I've really become a bit wiser... . Rene - entrepreneur
We should have come years earlier! We finally broke the negative patterns that had caused us to grow apart. Martin & Claire
Our relationship seemed to be at a dead end, but with your help we found our way back. Thank you very much for your involvement and clarity. Sylvia & Derk
After all these years of arguments and misunderstandings, it's amazing that we're now able to really talk to each other and understand each other. Arnold & Angela
Our relationship has improved a lot and we are really happy together again. It was definitely worth it! Simon and Alice
Coping & copingmechanisms
Even in a safe country like the Netherlands there are difficult or threatening situations in which you have to take care of your survival. You may have to fight
to keep your head above water during a certain period, and sometimes you have to fight for your place or to get something done. But it may also be that you got
caught up in an old coping mechanism & you are surviving - even when there is no real need to do so.
You can follow an (unconscious) coping mechanism that seems to help - and maybe once did - but now gets you in a very narrow state of mind & a very limited way
of functioning. You get really passive or franticly busy, you ignore or you doomsay, you start to please or to bully etc. Most people get stuck in vicious
circles when there survival instinct is triggered and end up plodding & toiling - and feel they have no other choice.
Coping & surviving
When you are coping, you are usually just glad to get by - and you tend to forget to really live & enjoy. Most coping mechanisms are based in fear and cause
a lot of tension. You get (unconsciously) into an instictive fight & flight mode - or you freeze when you don't know what to do. You automatically start worrying
a lot about what could go wrong - or you completely ignore all warning signs & bury your head in the sand.
If something seems important or threatening to you, you will feel like you have to fight to survive or that you have to avoid it at all costs. It can feel like
you have no choice than to push & to struggle, that you have to fight an uphill battle - or it will all go downhill. It can feel like you have to please & pacify,
or that you have to controle & manage everything - or all hell breaks lose.
That sense of surviving diminishes your intelligence & creates a lot of pressure and your coping mechanisms will usually cost you a lot of energy and wear you out.
Clarity & overview
When you exhaust yourself your clarity, creativity & overview diminish, leaving you with no other option than to keep plodding on. But that doesn't usually
work so well to just try to cope & survive and when something causes tension or when you perceive someone or something as difficult or threatening, you need your
faculties to find real solutions, instead of (unconsciously) following your coping mechanisms.
Instead of enjoying your life, work & relationships, you keep plodding, struggling, coping & surviving. Without insight you're likely to get stuck in that limited way of
functioning and discover that all your efforts & plodding are to little or no avail. It can be quite painful or frustrating if you don't learn to deal with
situations in a better way and at some point the tension can even become overwhelming or you can exhaust yourself too much.
If you don't properly understand the root causes of this, without new insights & effective tools, you will just keep on coping & make the same mistakes again &
again. And no matter how strong you are, if you carry too great a burden for too long, at some point it will be too much. And no matter how much energy you have,
when you overexploite yourself, there comes a time when your reserves really run out - and that is a risk you better not take.
Options & solutions
Tensions, responsibilities & uncertainties are often difficult to grasp & so complicated that you get caught in restrictive circles. Sometimes you don't know
exactly what's going on, what's going to happen or how something affects you and you miss the clarity to see what is really going on. This can cause quite a bit
of confusion, which makes it very difficult to respond adequately and to restore your balance.
The Centrumpraktijk helps you to investigate what is causing the tension & pressure, why you dread something, what is so difficult & threatening to you or why
something costs you so much effort and depletes your energy reserves. This clear picture of the causes is the start of working on solutions with practical & effective
tools, so you can then develop other, better options to deal with people & situations and are able to restore your energy & keep your balance.
Centrumpraktijk Haarlem
Email: info@centrumpraktijk.nl
Phone: +31 616 44 43 44
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Centrumpraktijk Haarlem
Email: info@centrumpraktijk.nl
Phone: +31 616 44 43 44
Therapy - Coaching - Couples therapy Haarlem - Heemstede
Therapy - Coaching - Couples therapy Haarlem - Heemstede
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See through pitfalls & patterns
Tackle problems effectively
Enrich your life & relationship(s)
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