The best guidance I could wish for! Thank you! Arjen - HR manager
Why didn't I find Centrumpraktijk earlier?! It would have saved me so much time and trouble!!! Marian - general practitioner
I finally feel fit and vital again. How wonderful it is to have energy again and to have clarity in my work & to be conscious in life. ! Harold - manager
Thanks to you, I no longer let it get to my head. My health is much more important than the delusions of the day. Thanks to your tips, stress has less and less of a hold on me and my entire family benefits from that. Conrad - branch manager
Thank you very much for all your efforts, I really appreciate it. Gerard - consultant
Amazing how quickly you saw through my patterns! That immediately gave me so much insight & relaxation! Diederik - business consultant
Finally someone who really knows what he's talking about! Why aren't there more of them? Irene - hr manager
I am glad I took the step. In-depth and very enlightening. Exactly what I was looking for. Arnoud - psychologist
I have found the balance that I desperately need in my busy life. Adriaan - general manager
I still benefit from it every day. It helps me to get everything clear - and keep it that way!. It gives me the insight & support I need when the work piles up. Moniek - pedagogue
The personal and involved guidance has done me a lot of good. I am increasingly able to apply the tools in my daily life. Francien - technical draftsman
Fantastic to meet someone with such deep understanding and experience! I learned a lot from it! Daniel - doctor
Good that to have greater awareness of my patterns and pitfalls. I feel a lot stronger and I can relax more easily. Johan - physiotherapist
Everything is getting easier for me and life is getting more fun! And that's what an old grump like me says... . Never thought I would really enjoy life! Bernard - chef
Nice to know better and better how to deal with all the challenges. That works very well! Jose - Team Leader
Great what you do! Sandra - sales manager
It's getting calmer and clearer, stress has less and less of an effect on me & others are starting to notice that I'm a lot more relaxed. Gerard - marketing director
I can now handle my responsibilities well and I no longer forget myself too much, and because of that I'm much more energetic and I can finally really get going with my own work. Roos - creative director
I've been walking around with book knowledge for far too long, a waste of time. Good to really get started with you. Thomas - professor
It feels more and more natural to live consciously. That feels good and gives me a lot. Serge - accountant
Thanks for your insights, really fantastic! Simone - HR advisor
The tools you gave me are very effective. I now approach things differently; it seems like I've really become a bit wiser... . Rene - entrepreneur
We should have come years earlier! We finally broke the negative patterns that had caused us to grow apart. Martin & Claire
Our relationship seemed to be at a dead end, but with your help we found our way back. Thank you very much for your involvement and clarity. Sylvia & Derk
After all these years of arguments and misunderstandings, it's amazing that we're now able to really talk to each other and understand each other. Arnold & Angela
Our relationship has improved a lot and we are really happy together again. It was definitely worth it! Simon and Alice
A negative self-image produces endless negative thoughts & feelings and has many negative consequences.
A (somewhat) negative self-image can (unknowingly) have a huge impact on your life, because your thoughts, feelings & behaviour are influenced by such an (unconscious) negative view of yourself. A negative self-image undermines your sense of self-confidence & self-esteem and that in turn has a negative effect on other aspects of your life, such as your energy, motivation, inspiration, decisiveness & zest for life - and that in turn negatively affects your work & relationships.
Negative self-image & self-subversion
Because you (unknowingly) look at yourself through dark glasses, you start to think about yourself in a (somewhat) negative, undermining way & feel (somewhat)
worthless about yourself. This self-subversion makes you feel easily attacked, wronged or hurt and/or can cause a strong desire to prove yourself or jealousy. It can cause you to quickly counterattack or withdraw. And you continue to do so unwillingly, over and over again.
You will tend to compensate for your negative feelings with food, shopping, gaming, clothes, binge watching, alcohol, drugs, promiscuity, expensive things, status, ostentation, attention, applause, working too hard, exercising excessively and/or dysfunctional relationships. And you will tend to blame something or someone for your negative feelings & (unknowingly & unintentionally) crawl into a victim role and often feel angry, helpless and/or depressed.
Negative self-image & internalized pain
A negative self-image is created by painful events in your life, such as rejection, disapproval, failure, criticism, ridicule & exclusion or by a lack of love, appreciation and/or confirmation in your childhood. The old pain is internalized as a feeling of inferiority and causes a (mild) form of self-rejection & self-hatred. Which causes shame, a need to prove yourself, pleasing behavior & (self)criticism & you start hiding behind a facade etc.
A negative self-image can produce endless negative thoughts & feelings, which makes such a negative view of yourself prove itself. Because the old (unconscious) feelings of hurt and/or inferiority feel so true & real, it is very difficult to really change this yourself. Because although it is only a way of looking that you once learned that makes you feel (somewhat) inferior, you unconsciously experience it as the truth about yourself.
Negative self-image & self-sabotage
It is very important to start working on your negative self-image & negative feelings about yourself. Otherwise you will have to keep pushing away the underlying pain & dissatisfaction, keep compensating, keep up a facade, keep pleasing and/or keep proving yourself etc. And you will keep undermining & torturing yourself with self-criticism etc. which is very tiring & painful - and makes your life more superficial & unsatisfying.
Because even if you only suffer from this to a lesser extent, a negative self-image will continue to negatively influence your life in many ways, reduce your happiness & continue to cause you problems. Because you (unconsciously) do not really value yourself or feel (somewhat) worthless about yourself, you will repeat the same negative thoughts, feelings & behaviors over and over again. And you will quickly get bogged down in habits & waste a lot of time on things that do not benefit you much.
A negative self-image often causes peculiar forms of self-sabotage, where you undermine yourself, treat yourself badly, withhold nice things or barely grant
yourself anything truly good - or you may even (unconsciously) start to hurt & punish yourself. A negative self-image can cause self-sabotage in the form of
addictions, dependency or self-mutilation in a greater or lesser degree - which, in turn, reinforces the negative self-image & makes it more deeply ingrained.
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Phone: +31 616 44 43 44
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Email: info@centrumpraktijk.nl
Phone: +31 616 44 43 44
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