The best guidance I could wish for! Thank you! Arjen - HR manager
Why didn't I find Centrumpraktijk earlier?! It would have saved me so much time and trouble!!! Marian - general practitioner
I finally feel fit and vital again. How wonderful it is to have energy again and to have clarity in my work & to be conscious in life. ! Harold - manager
Thanks to you, I no longer let it get to my head. My health is much more important than the delusions of the day. Thanks to your tips, stress has less and less of a hold on me and my entire family benefits from that. Conrad - branch manager
Thank you very much for all your efforts, I really appreciate it. Gerard - consultant
Amazing how quickly you saw through my patterns! That immediately gave me so much insight & relaxation! Diederik - business consultant
Finally someone who really knows what he's talking about! Why aren't there more of them? Irene - hr manager
I am glad I took the step. In-depth and very enlightening. Exactly what I was looking for. Arnoud - psychologist
I have found the balance that I desperately need in my busy life. Adriaan - general manager
I still benefit from it every day. It helps me to get everything clear - and keep it that way!. It gives me the insight & support I need when the work piles up. Moniek - pedagogue
The personal and involved guidance has done me a lot of good. I am increasingly able to apply the tools in my daily life. Francien - technical draftsman
Fantastic to meet someone with such deep understanding and experience! I learned a lot from it! Daniel - doctor
Good that to have greater awareness of my patterns and pitfalls. I feel a lot stronger and I can relax more easily. Johan - physiotherapist
Everything is getting easier for me and life is getting more fun! And that's what an old grump like me says... . Never thought I would really enjoy life! Bernard - chef
Nice to know better and better how to deal with all the challenges. That works very well! Jose - Team Leader
Great what you do! Sandra - sales manager
It's getting calmer and clearer, stress has less and less of an effect on me & others are starting to notice that I'm a lot more relaxed. Gerard - marketing director
I can now handle my responsibilities well and I no longer forget myself too much, and because of that I'm much more energetic and I can finally really get going with my own work. Roos - creative director
I've been walking around with book knowledge for far too long, a waste of time. Good to really get started with you. Thomas - professor
It feels more and more natural to live consciously. That feels good and gives me a lot. Serge - accountant
Thanks for your insights, really fantastic! Simone - HR advisor
The tools you gave me are very effective. I now approach things differently; it seems like I've really become a bit wiser... . Rene - entrepreneur
We should have come years earlier! We finally broke the negative patterns that had caused us to grow apart. Martin & Claire
Our relationship seemed to be at a dead end, but with your help we found our way back. Thank you very much for your involvement and clarity. Sylvia & Derk
After all these years of arguments and misunderstandings, it's amazing that we're now able to really talk to each other and understand each other. Arnold & Angela
Our relationship has improved a lot and we are really happy together again. It was definitely worth it! Simon and Alice
Vulnerability
If you have not learned to deal with your vulnerability properly, you can become emotional far too quickly & far too often and react violently & emotionally without much reason. Or you can deny, numb & ignore your feelings, which causes you to flatten out, become dull & lack emotions, and create a wall between yourself & other people. And one can cause & reinforce the other.
Like many people, you may not have learned to deal with your vulnerability in a good, mature & balanced way. As a result, you are not able to regulate your feelings well and you (unintentionally) quickly lose your temper or burst into tears (unintentionally) at the slightest thing. Or you become distant, sullen & close yourself off - you suppress your feelings, remain silent, sulk or nag. Because you lack insights & tools, you can (unconsciously & unintentionally) end up in a victim role or become (passively) aggressive.
Suppressed feelings
If you don't know what to do with your vulnerability, you will tend to hide & suppress your feelings. Especially if you are ashamed of your vulnerability and don't want to be weak or are afraid of being embarrassed, you will not let yourself be known - which means that no one really knows you anymore, including yourself. You can then feel very helpless when you are confronted with your vulnerability & get quite a fright when your feelings are not so easy to suppress. Which is why ignoring, numbing & suppressing really seem to be the only solution.
If you suppress your feelings, you may seem strong for a while, but in the end you will actually become weaker. You no longer know what things do to you, which means you don't notice that you are getting out of balance and so you don't intervene or intervene too late - and that is not handy & not healthy. For example, you can suppress sadness & increasingly end up in a depression. Or you can suppress & pile up irritations and suddenly explode. Or you can ignore fatigue & get burned out.
Dealing with vulnerability
If you do not know how to deal with your vulnerability, you no longer know what things do to you & what is going on with you - you become alienated from yourself. And if you are behind a wall, you do not know what is going on with others and because of that distance you can miss a lot - you become alienated from others. As a result, you can miss important signals, from your partner, child or colleague, even if they regularly sound the alarm. As a result, you cannot respond or respond to situations well and you can be surprised by things that have been quite clearly announced for a long time.
It is therefore important to learn to deal with your vulnerability well, so that you do not become oversensitive & are repeatedly thrown off balance by your emotionality, but also do not become hardened & insensitive and create a wall between yourself & other people. And if you are (unconsciously) afraid of being weak or being embarrassed, feelings can pile up unnoticed, which can cause the tension to rise. Your vulnerability can then seem really threatening, a danger that you have to arm yourself against - and that can catch you off guard.
Emotional intelligence
As a result, you may not dare to be vulnerable or not dare to be vulnerable and continue to suppress your feelings, which creates distance and alienates you from yourself & other people. Or you can start fighting your feelings and try to harden and become invulnerable, which causes your feelings to take on a life of their own and suddenly all come out unfiltered, or cause all kinds of psychological and physical complaints, from headaches & stomach aches to burnout & depression.
If you have difficulty with vulnerability, you better learn to deal with it well. By learning this, you will not only become emotionally but also socially more mature & intelligent. You see, understand & feel much better what is going on, what something triggers & how you can deal with this well, both with yourself and with others. These insights & skills provide peace, balance, overview, stability & self-confidence and make your relationships better - with yourself & with others.
Centrumpraktijk Haarlem
Email: info@centrumpraktijk.nl
Phone: +31 616 44 43 44
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Centrumpraktijk Haarlem
Email: info@centrumpraktijk.nl
Phone: +31 616 44 43 44
Therapy - Coaching - Couples therapy Haarlem - Heemstede
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